A Doable Game Plan to Defeat Bad Habits & Win the Ultimate You

Watching them plant hope and bulbs and possibility in the early morning light, it’s pretty clear that it’s true:

And it’s true for the guy procrastinating and the woman struggling to change old habits and every parent and every teenager and every single one of us going through hard things:

I know there feels like there’s only one of you. The you right now. The one who Feels All The Things.

But believe the impossible things, because it’s true: There are two of you, really.

The Short-Term You — and the Long-Term You. The Now-You — and The Becoming You.

The Immediate You. And the Ultimate You.

And if you only loved the right now Immediate You — and let The Immediate You come and go and do whatever she wanted, whatever made her Feel All The Good Things, whatever made her happiest —- you wouldn’t be loving the Ultimate You.

It’s true personally, and it’s true in parenting;

There isn’t one fibre in any pulsing heart that likes seeing the Short-Term Immediate You Hurt.

But you’ve got to love the Long-Term Ultimate You wider and deeper  and longer — the You that can ultimately be —  so you’re willing to take the resistance of your Immediate Self right now.

Love the Ultimate You. 

Be committed to the Ultimate You and don’t sell out the long-term Ultimate You.

Sometimes the short-term Immediate You cannot have what she wants — so that the long-term Ultimate You can be who she wants to be.

Sometimes the short-term Immediate You won’t feel loved —- because this is about ultimately loving the long-term Ultimate You.

Sometimes the short-term Immediate You can’t have immediate gratification — so you can give the long-term Ultimate You what is ultimately best. 

Do the hard and holy things for the Ultimate You and tell yourself:

You may always make mistakes—but that is very different than always making excuses.

Be a tender guide to your soul:

Expect mistakes— but accept no excuses.

Mistakes happen—but berating ourselves doesn’t have to.

Every day: expect it to be hard.

Every day: Expect it to be worth it.

Change is a marathon won by a million baby steps.

Slip ups aren’t downfalls if you rise again.

Focusing on what is going right is the only way to keep going.

Back up plans keep you from giving up goals.

Today’s failure successfully gives you information on how to succeed tomorrow.

And honestly? It’s only failure if we fail to rise again.

Just keep saying it over and over again:

You’re meant to do hard & holy things because they are the next thing — to get to the best thing.

There are two of you — the Immediate You. And the Ultimate You. Who are you going to ultimately focus on?

All of us have things in front of us that are hard and they hurt. 

And we all have a Father and it literally killed Him to see us hurting through the hard — and we need to believe it:

When my own Short-Term Immediate Self is hurting, my Father’s hurting with me — to grow me. 

When they are finished planting the last of the bulbs, they water them slowly, trusting miracles happen, that hope can unfurl one day at a time, that things can profoundly change.

I set pots in all this light and actually believe.


Books for Soul Healing:

One Thousand Gifts 

Take the dare to discover: Life is not an emergencyLife is a GIFT.
Start counting gifts and find joy — right where you are.


The Broken Way 

What if Brokenness is the Path into the Abundant Life?
You don’t have to be afraid of broken things — because Christ is redeeming everything.
There’s no other authentic way forward — but a broken way.

The Way of Abundance 

Journey into a deeply meaningful life with this devotional and take sixty steps from heart-weary brokenness to Christ-focused abundance. The Way of Abundance — is the way forward every heart needs.

Be The Gift 

Let your brokenness be turned into abundance.
Be the Gift invites you into the next step of deeper transformation, less stress, more joy and abundantly more peace & purpose. You only get one life to love well…to Be The Gift.