40 Things You Need to Know Before You’re 40 . . . . Letters to a Woman Mid-Way

Dear Self,

Look, you have only got so many days till your midway.

Till you’ve heard almost half the morning doves you ever will.

Felt the sun on your face half as many chances as you’ll have, laughed half as many times as you’ll ever know — and who knows, maybe most of your God-blessed moments are already passed?

So for the holy sake of sanity get off that dizzying ferris wheel and battle your way out of the crazy midway and go lose yourself so you can find yourself.

Ferris Wheel

Ferris wheel

Ferris Wheel

No one, down in the marrows, wants to live a midway life.
Live. all. out.

Shake up out of the shallows. Wake up.

Live backwards.

From Well done, good and faithful servant — work your life backward from that.

Live upside down.
It’s the only way you’re ever going to get to see the Kingdom of God.

Live simply.
With great grace, no expectations, and lavish love.

Get your hands right dirty, live with life gritty and moving under your fingernails, give away what you wanted most, do without, write a card, throw out your wish-list, buy happiness by paying attention to God.

And this, every day still left, do this: Run to kiss, or to hug, or to make your heart beat hard and alive.

You’ve got time for it right now: Love Big or Go Home and Love the smallest the Biggest.

Love never gives up but lays itself down. This is the way of God. This is the way to live. Touch a child’s hand, smile on the street and up at the sky, tell someone they’re pretty amazing, use up all your time to pour out all love.

Live by the rhythms — doing this always after that. Your heart has a rhythm for a reason. It’s keeping you alive.

Go to bed earlier. Get up earlier. This is a gift you can give yourself everyday.

You can breathe deep and grin: Every day is always day 1. New mercies revive you!

The only way to live faithfully is to focus.

In a world of Twitter and Facebook, the command not to turn to the left or the right takes on immediate gravity.

He commanded it: “Do not be afraid.” Go ahead, let your courage be as big as Christ is. Climb right over your fears. All He’s promised you is just on the other side of fear.

Because really?

All fear is but the notion that God’s love ends.

When does He ever end?

And, we’ve only got so much time, so let’s just decide: We’re done with the myth of safety. Safety’s just the mirage of the living dead. Do you really want to live or not?

Do 1 Dangerous Thing Every Day.

The only way to ever find the Comforter is outside of your comfort zones — no wonder being safe leaves you restless. Do it already!

The moment you stop caring what other people think — is most likely when you start doing what God wants.

You’ll need that one again, self: The moment you stop caring what other people think — is most likely when you start doing what God wants.

Live in that space.

So midway, get off the midway —

go find your soul by losing yourself, in the muck and mire and the beauty and the love and the way down, in the impossible made possible, straight through the fears that always turn out to be mirage —

grabbing everything you ever wanted by pouring everything right out out.

The ferris wheel and the fear and the world spinning on—

and you getting off to have the ride of your life.



What You May Really Need today:
Why it’s time to be done with Safe

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