How to Write the Best Love Letters

When I opened the first letter you ever sent me, I was fifteen.

And the snow was chest high in that village up in the Quebec mountains where I tried to learn how to ski and speak French and make poutine, all of which I only mangled.

I tore open into your envelope right there at the post office.

I read your lines five times walking the snow piled streets back to the school, my mouth agape, a door swinging wide open in surprise, the bitter blue February burning my lungs.

You had sent me words.

Over twenty years I have kept your shy lines, the years I have kept your sons and your daughters, the years you have kept me.






You don’t write me letters any more.

Except for notes left on the counter that you are working the dirt down at Mama’s farms or you need me to pick up a bottle of oxytocin at the vet’s.

You feed sows and you plant seeds and you pour cement floors out in the shop on a Thursday and you leave the power trowel to fly in here right when we should already be driving out the lane.

And you bath up for Shakespeare in Stratford and I howl at you all the way there.

That we’re going to be late!

And I wish I’d grow up and shut up but I can’t and you quietly put up.

And you never raise your voice and I keep pulling at my neck all nerves, that our As You Like It is not going to be as I love it if we are too late! and they’ve closed the doors! and I say a lot of words!

And I write a lot of words and we arrive 10 minutes early at the theater and you never say a word. You don’t even like Shakespeare. But you do it for Love.

You spend the whole of your life speaking these silent words with a gravity that keep me in right orbit and your life warms me to life and a Living God.

I have pounded out a lot of keys. I have read a lot of typeset.

You’ve written little. You’ve never bought a book in the whole of your life. But you are the man who gave me the love of The Word and there isn’t enough ink in this world for me to express thanks and I will always love you.

You walk our land and you pull our weeds and you lead our children and your life writes The Word with your blood and your brawn and your bent knee.

The best love letters are the ones simply breathed and lived and laid down with a life.

You never stop writing yours.

It comes soon, Midsummer Night’s Eve, known too as St. John’s Eve, that patron saint of beekeepers and this month’s moon is known as the honey-moon and why has ours lasted so many moons?

Did you know that Shakespeare’s set his Midsummer Night’s Dream, that play of wandering lovers, on this night and maids used to pick flowers and tuck them under their pillows on this night in hopes of dreams about someday-lovers.

I’ve never done that because you are the one who picked me flowers just yesterday and made the dreams I didn’t know I had come true.

In that play, Shakespeare wrote, “The course of true love never did run smooth.”

Ours hasn’t.

The river has run wild and it has turned and it has twisted but you have held me tight and you have kept me close and you have called it an adventure that is worth the running of the rapids.

You have made me brave.

I know you might not believe me but Shakespeare would have liked you. He wrote of you in Act III, Scene II of King Henry the Fifth and you have lived these words, made me know them to be true and I’d now never doubt. That “Men of few words are the best men.”

This is the way you woo me, with a love letter that has a strong back and big thick hands that work the long hours and find mine in the night and has a heart that keeps its promises, holds its tongue and would die for me and the children we have made. So what could there possibly left to say?

You use no paper and you write volumes and still waters run deepest.

Love needs few words. It only needs will.

The words that matter most are the ones that we live and you teach me how to write a love letter.

I lay down my pen.

I long to write you real words.


Your very lives are a letter that anyone can read by just looking at you. Christ himself wrote it — not with ink, but with God’s living Spirit; not chiseled into stone, but carved into human lives

repost from the archives as a fly to speak at a retreat in NC … how I love how he’s loved like Jesus