3 Guideposts that can Radically Change Parenting {free printables for Mother’s Day}

Notes to self as I parent today, 3 lines that have radically changed my parenting– what I call Poetic Parenting:

1. Heart Connect… only then Direct.

Instruction can only thrive in the soil of authentic relationship. Before offering instruction, consider how to touch the child gently. Think on how to frame all instructions in the context of a loving, affirming relationship.

If instruction bears tensions then check out the soil: perhaps the relationship needs fertilizing. If the relationship has been well cultivated and nourished, and instruction still yields resistance, perhaps offering more opportunities to practice receiving and implementing instruction may nourish the young shoot towards a joyful attitude.

Questions to self: Am I making eye contact? Am I touching? Have I nourished this relationship? Am I connecting before directing?

2. Love, what did I say?……
And will you obey?

Asking the child what was said allows the child to offer feedback to ensure they did indeed hear the instructions.

Then, does the child intend to do what was asked?


3. By what is inspected,
They’ll know what is expected

Our children need to hear it as much as the faithful servant needed to hear it: “Well done, good and faithful servant!”

Questions to Self: Am I bringing closure to an instruction by joining with a child to inspect the task? Am I being faithful to finishing that which I began: I gave the instruction, did I inspect?

And thus a few lines for self to recite, that radically change everything about parenting:

1. Heart Connect … only then Direct

2. Love, what did I say?
And will you obey?

3. By what is inspected

They’ll know what is expected.

{ And if you’re visiting from the Drew Marshall Show‘s Mother’s Day Special — it was a humble surprise to cross paths… a warm, shy welcome!

The post I read on air, “For Mothers who Fear Failure” can be read here.

And it’s follow up post, 16 years later, for that firstborn who’s now nearly a man and I’m finding myself on this side of the parenting journey, “For Mothers of Teenagers who ache just a bit” can be read here.

And the story of  my own struggle for joy in the midst, it begins here… }

And a Free Gift for all Mothers for  Mother’s Day …

because you are co-laboring over the sculpting of souls and this a sacred vocation, a humbling privilege and I celebrate what you do! Never forget that what you do  literally changes the world, beautiful sister. Abundant blessings on you… I join the angels in cheering you on!

Free printables — tuck in a card or in a frame or on the fridge?

Click here to print: 10 Grace Prayers for Joyful Parenting

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Click here to print: 10 Helps for Busy Mothers

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